By Karin Brosnan - Monday, January 19, 2009
Hope Wipes Out Worry
Our cute brother underwent surgery again on Friday. They were hoping to remove any cancerous spots on his liver and re-attach his colon so he would not have to wear a bag. The doctors came back with not good news. They found more cancer...but some good news came last night.... that some of the "new" cancer they found was actually shrinking! So that means the chemo is working. They did blast out the cancer that was on the outside of his liver but they don't know if there is more on the inside. Our entire family has had a rush of emotions come flooding over us .....and it has been tough ....as you can imagine. But through this affliction we continue to have great hope. Tim himself is still very positive and has a great outlook on the whole thing.
I struggled to figure out a way to send some hope to my brother especially since I live far way.....until I taught a lesson to our Young Women on Sunday about Following the Example of Jesus Christ and one particular story touched me.
A young girl was having a hard time in her life. She was filled with discontent. Everything seemed wrong...friends, her home was unattractive, her own personality was unattractive, they were poor etc.. To get help she went to a lady that was leading the kind of life she wanted to have. The girl poured out her heart to the lady and after a gentle word of sympathy said, You can change all that if really have the will to do it...
To begin a new life...live for 24 hours as if Christ were right beside you, seeing everything you do. Then come to me again and we'll talk about it again. Will you do that? The young girl agreed. The girl went home and she knew she was expected to get the table set...she went and took out a wrinkled tablecloth that had stains on it...Here she had her first thought of change. "If Christ were coming to eat with us, I wouldn't put on a soiled tablecloth" she thought in her mind. So she got a clean one and then thought to put a small bowl of flowers from the yard on the table and put the butter on a fresh plate. Her family was shocked...and asked her who was coming for dinner? The girl said I don't know of anyone I'd rather fix things up for than you my parents.
They just sat and stared at each other because the girl was normally not like this.
The girl continued to do all kinds of things and kept reminding herself ..."Christ beside me" even when she went to her job the next morning (that she hated)...she reminded herself "Christ beside me" and was happy and friendly to all she came in contact with and even helped solve problems with rude customers. She then reported back to the lady at the end of the next day and expressed that she did it as best as she could and "well, it made everything different. I think I can see what you mean" she said. "Of course it did not change the things that are still bothering me...I'm still poor, can't go to school and I live in an ugly house...."
The woman answered her back and said "Ah, my dear you have only started the seed-sowing, 24 hours ago. Can you keep on as you've begun? You have the key word. It is Christ.
Fretting doesn't change things very much. but Christ does." Just remember to keep your daily walk close to Him. (Stories that Live Lucy Gertsch Thomson)
I decided to try the experiment myself ......I prepared my Sunday lesson as if He was sitting right beside me, I cooked a meal as though he was there, I had the opportunity to give some items to the needy and at first I just started to put them in a big pile and I thought about Christ and I neatly folded them and noticed a seam was out on one bed sheet...I went and sewed it up before I gave it away. Everything seemed to be different even though nothing had changed. I then came up with the idea to send my brother uplifting or funny quotes, positive and motivating stories and to send them to him everyday. My whole outlook has changed!
I would invite any of you to do the same...try the experiment if even for 24 hours and report back to me. I would love to hear what you have to say.
Also if any of you come across any great quotes that I could pass onto my brother please leave them in the comments.
Here are a couple that I sent my brother in the last few days....
A smooth sea never made a skillful mariner. English Proverb
“We are here in mortality, and the only way to go is through; there isn’t any around!” Elder Neal A. Maxwell
but Marjorie Pay Hinckley added: the only way to get through life is to laugh through it. You either have to laugh or cry. I prefer to laugh. Crying gives me a headache. (I love that!)
I also found another one that made me laugh:
Frogs have it easy, they can eat what bugs them. Unknown
We as a family continuing to pray and search the scriptures for comfort and truly find it.
One of my favorite scriptures is Proverbs 3:5 "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding." Hope does wipe out worry!!
Many thanks to all who have been praying for my brother we feel it.